The onset of the crisis
Career
Crisis comes when your career aspirations inspire you no more, do not meet your
needs, do not cover the life of purpose. Those goals that you've actively
sought five years ago, melted like the snows of yesteryear. Do you know whether
or not that unhappy, but, alas, your life values and dreams mired in the dust
of daily labor concerns.
It may
occur gradually or suddenly
Sometimes a crisis in one day. Maybe you have not received
an increase, which had been counted, maybe you struck death of someone close,
or maybe you just love. It happens that the changed policy of your company and
you think that your work has become less important. Global events can affect
your life priorities and lead to a career crisis.
Sometimes you will gradually get to this state, and the
goals that previously seemed important to you, over time, lose their hidden
meaning. You understand that the plans for life formed in early adolescence do
not correspond to the aspirations of a mature man.
Signs of career crisis
You do not like their
colleagues or boss, although I found them quite nice.
You absolutely do not
want to get up and go to work every day.
You are bored, you
are scattered, there is no incentive, you are all starting to annoy and
irritate.
You think that you
are torn between two lives.
You see that all
around everything is in order and the one you're so unhappy.
You have everything
there is strength, and like you are not wanted and to have no one cares.
You just can not take
the serious vital decisions, asking advice from all and sundry.
You always regret the
decisions taken in the past.
You get angry at the
people, because of that, you think, you are in the present situation.
Do not ignore your feelings
If you feel bad if you think that this was the career crisis,
it is likely the way it is, and do not try to hide from it even further. The
longer you will continue to live this kind of life, so much the worse for you.
Understand yourself and solve the problem.
Where to begin
To start rummage in myself and my feelings. Think about what
brought you to this life, when and how it happened. Think, if you can improve
the situation by working in the present company, or you'd better change the
staff, the atmosphere, the activities. Ask yourself what you want, what is the
purpose of your life that is important to you and what your values today.
No. You do not just pick up a pencil and paper and paint all
the points - needs a serious analysis, which would take weeks or even months.
Some people are so deeply stuck in a crisis that is not in itself any forces on
decisive action - be it a promotion or transition to another company. Sometimes
you need to be able to look at our lives from the side to see what the root of
the problem.
What prevents us to budge?
As a rule, a sense of responsibility to the family and the
fear of being in someone's eyes a weak man. Yes, almost all of us have someone
who depends on us and our wages. It can be parents, children, life partner. And
many cling to these excuses, stopping himself from the decisive action. "I
have no right to give up - on my shoulders elderly parents." "I can
not afford to leave this place. What children think about your father?
"" Let's say I go with this work, to try his luck somewhere else. But
then I did not get? I do not want to look like a loser in the eyes of
relatives. " All these excuses prevent us from seriously tackle the
problem.
Shift the
blame for their situation to someone - even worse. You start feeling sorry for
yourself, depriving yourself extra strength and joy. As a result, you feel that
you are the most miserable people in the world and nothing you will not help.
"Oh, if only my parents forced me to go to the Medical, now I would be a
successful lawyer. It's all their fault "- that's the psychology of such
thinking. We'll have to disappoint you. You are an adult and you are
responsible for your life. Yeah, maybe your parents forced you to do unloved
business, but that was long ago. You have grown up, held, you can realize your
true desires and find the strength to change everything. After all, you can
start small. But if you do not do anything to realize their true dreams, to
blame you and only you.
And
remember, your family wants to see you happy. If the work does not bring
joy to you, it's impact on your family and friends. They will feel that life
will not in joy, but maybe you did not even say anything to them, do not
complain. Your sacred duty - to allow a career crisis and live up to their true
desires. All will benefit from this, and the family is required to understand
and support you.
Do not hide your head in the sand, hiding from possible ways
As they say, better known trouble expected uncertainty. In
other words, we may not like our job, but we know it, we got used to it and
just afraid to change anything. This fear is your true weakness. It is very
sad. The prospect of spending a dozen years doing hateful thing, far more
terrible than any change!
We think that we know the truth, but it is not
People who are in a state of crisis, career, have a unique
ability to know in advance and anticipate everything. All the setbacks they
have a ready response, explanation as to why they can not change their lives.
They seem something, and here they are already lining up a whole scientific
theory. "I can not engage in publishing activities, because there is a lot
of competition." "I'll never be able to earn so much money."
"I'm sure my family will not approve, if I go into another realm."
But if you did not even ask if you have not carried out a serious analysis of
the market, you can be sure - because your career decision is often based on
preconceived assumptions. Be honest with yourself, and if you are not sure a
hundred percent, find out the truth. And in any case, do not cover so your
laziness.
Distrust themselves and their feelings
People who are in career crisis, like to seek advice from
others, but completely forget to listen to yourself. Only you can know what you
really need. Ask for advice, but make their own decisions. Follow the call of
your heart.
inflated self-esteem
Another favorite excuse: "I can not quit this job. What
will they do without me? The company will collapse! "And where do they, if
because of this, you go counter to their own desires and goals. Breathe deeply,
please be determined to make this crucial step. There are no irreplaceable
people. The main thing is not to lose a sense of humor.
Set goals and look for solutions
Once you realize what you want, think of possible ways to
achieve the goal and get to work.
Get support
Your family, friends, colleagues - an excellent source of
information and ideas, unless you trust their judgment and ask for advice.
Perhaps they will prompt you to the original decision. Gather as many opinions
as possible, but do not let them drown newfound understanding of themselves.
live with integrity
Sadly, but many still carry their labor service, never
experienced the happiness of career achievements. Here he is retiring, tired
and miserable, and soon all the forgotten people: farewell dinner, keepsake
handshake colleagues. And what remains in the memory? - Thirty years of daily
trips to the aimless work. Professional life must not end this way. You need to
retire happy, with a sense of accomplishment, seeing and feeling the results
achieved contribute. Therefore, recognizing the career crisis, take the right
decision at the time.
Your future depends on you, so what are you waiting for ?!
Perhaps you are not on the best work, but you have the
experience and skills necessary to help you get the ball rolling and find
yourself. Once you understand that inaction came to nothing lead, and that all
depends on you, consider that you are on the right track. Take the basis of
their new awareness of life and build on it the happy future.
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